Wednesday was a big day at Salvando Corazones. Along with
normal running of the house we had two different groups of visitors. The first
group that came was the US
embassy. Three individuals for the embassy came to visit the safe house and
discuss the possibility of a human trafficking conference that we wish to put
on. It was a very positive meeting. The embassy was very excited about our
ideas and expertise and they agreed to pay for the trainings and conference.
Several other specialists from different NGOs in Costa Rica also came to join the
meeting and it was fun seeing 20 some odd people around our kitchen table. We
also received a visit from the Pani (Child Protective Services). They came to
evaluate the house and interview the staff and the girls. They had several
major changes including more defined roles for each individual, a more fixed
schedule, as well as other recommendations for the house. I felt that it was a
very positive experience even though we were written up for several small
things around the house (one of which was there were a pair of boots by the
backdoor, which for some reason all shoes must be out of sight. What?). It is
exciting to be meeting with such important people and seeing everyone come
together over the issues of human trafficking and caring for the girls.
The last week has also been stressful for several emotional
reasons. Salvando Corazones is a very new organization, and it was opened over
two years ahead of schedule. There is still so much to still do in order to
create a smoothly functioning organization. Meeting after meeting talking about
rules, roles, and concerns takes a lot out of you physically and mentally. It
is important to continue to remind myself that we are doing this for the girls
when you feel beat down trying to deal with structural and management issues
all day. A cohesive and trusting group is necessary to successfully open up a
group home.
I have learned a lot especially from the new girl that has
arrived. I have never dealt with a child so young on such strong depression
medication. The different psychological problems that she is dealing with are
extremely concerning. The combination of psychological problems as well as
general behavior problems keeps all of us on our toes and constantly changing things
around the house.
The best story happened last night. Yesterday was a
difficult day for two of the girls. They decided to go for a walk off property
on their own twice as they did not want to comply with the schedules. We are
fairly remote, but still there are concerns and rules about leaving the
premises unattended. Last night we decided to steal all of their shoes as a
punishment for their unaccompanied walks and to prevent their “escape” that
they were planning for the morning. One of the other volunteers and I snuck
into their rooms with a flashlight very Watergate-esk. All the shoes were
hidden away and a super interesting morning was to follow. The reactions of the
different girls varied. One found it funny, one found it fair, and one decided
that the world was out to get her and she was not going to class. Working with
these girls especially when it comes to behavior management has been fascinating
and I would never have guessed that my job description would involve stealing girl’s
shoes in the night (I was able to feel like Santa Claus, but more like the evil
Santa’s that one might find in the mall). Sadly, not all behavior management is
as fun as stealing shoes. Earlier in the day we had to take apart a girls room without
her knowing in order to look for razor blades. I have never had to deal with
cutting behavior before, but the psychological distress that some of these
girls are experiencing always keeps me on alert and learning new things. How to
deal with each girl individually is fascinating and I know that my experience here
will help me deal with children in the future. Thanks to Jen, I had attended a
talk on Dyscalculia and Dyslexia at Vanderbilt which unfortunately is yet
another issue that arises with these girls. There is never a dull day and still
so much to learn.